New Year's Eve, whether in or Bima Dorje is critical for the day, because, in the evening to bring Bima Dorje will attend the grid is part of the family dinner-house gathering of foreigners in general would not participate in such a situation . So once Bima In this appear, that will be invisible to mean that the two exchanges hope to get the whole house to recognition.
Has been Doje and Bima was very curious about the love life, although the doors of the bamboo the old bamboo doors, wooden doors of the time is long past, but in the eyes of outsiders They really are some disparities in all aspects. One is always living in the superior urban environments, have a good family background, occupation and respected by others highly educated person; one is suffering and the family had grown up in the countryside grew up in the changes in poverty and hardship. While their appearance is definitely a good first-class, but in the beginning I was an outsider perspective that they can not be long. What is secular because the conditions are not cast aside, said two people alone in their respective ethnic groups in the education of small to large there are many essentially different, such differences must be caused by accumulated long-term effect separate from the fuse.
Mosuo emotionally although both men and women have given great freedom, not someone to say in your own private affair, but shy culture exists, it bit by bit penetration in the Mosuo people in all aspects of life, which in turn the individual actions caused a great limitation. In the village's public places, whether day or night, men and women are rarely seen alone together Mosuo scenario, if a man and a woman hugged hand can be sure they must have a foreign person not Mosuo locals; In addition to There are a number of linguistic taboos Mosuo people is that there really is an incredible nation. Why is it inconceivable? On the one hand it is strict and conservative; other hand, it open and free.
I was puzzling Moso's in and Doje, Bima multiple contacts, as well as to live together in one by one slowly untied, but are actually not as long as the public places, blood relatives, say, and to make any pre-fireplace reminiscent of language or behavior, others are let yourself go. May seem very simple matter, but in fact it is hard, it can know him from the Bima. I have asked Bima have never said or done something taboo, she said, started laughing too much trouble in a lot of embarrassing things and a joke, thanks to several corrections and remind Doje finally habit. She said that in her mind where two staff love hand is normal, so the first and Dorje to the village she would like, holding his hand and a walking her surprise, the first step Doje and getting faster and faster Not only did not want to hand the meaning of even unwilling to walk side by side with her. She thought he heads a big reason for the high pace, so while panting behind him to catch up with Bianjiao wait To her surprise, he did not mean to stop, until separated by "galaxy from," she realized that Dorje is La distance deliberately avoid the village seen shy, when she was really dumbfounding. Dorji said there was a brother of that marriage to go home girl to invite them to go home and guests, to the former that he had repeatedly reminded what words can not say, Bima also kept in mind. Go to the post she was Business Planning and rules, called "sister-in" call to remove the word called his sister, and indeed to the presence of my grandmother was very happy at this time just happened to be born baby hold in, she was very happy to hold off a baby Kanleyikuai unhesitatingly say that a very much like his father. These words were the presence of a Startled, Doje is also very embarrassed, and confused all the people deliberately touching the East looking West, took the opportunity to bugger, fearing that she repeat that shy people out of the case, Bima This referred to the child's father realized that will also reminiscent of the sex between parents and their children, but also guilty of bad news. Fortunately, my grandmother was busy taking her for money to meet a variety of good food is not the ancestral house, or to the elderly will have heard a great view that do not know the rules.
Dorji said that after several Bima now what words and actions occasions in which it can be said and doing very well, there is no repeat any errors. Although he spoke easily to the process, I still feel Bima live in the area is a big pressure. Dorje heard since childhood head dyed this moral defense mechanism, but Bima different. Is not to say Bima accepted Han culture is how to how to open, but that even "wife", "sister-in", "father", "love" and so on and so forth makes possible "association" to someone and sex with a person's word can not be mentioned in front of their relatives, which is difficult for the Bima.
Sometimes I will Bima against injustice, but she always said that every time used to like. She never complained about anything, I think this is her most valuable point, which I most appreciate the place. She did not do anything for him hypocritical urban girls, but women have a Mosuo generosity, virtuous kind personality, and the steady scholarly temperament Doje Altogether, this is indeed Later, I think that they can not completely change the underlying causes of long-term thinking.
New Year's party I did not take part, but deeply felt as the days continue to close their hearts to perturbed. In particular, Bima, although she did not mention any of these topics, but she helped staff a few days ago let me New Year's Eve what to wear this matter I have felt her inner anxiety and dinner emphasis. Dorji is also a bit Jizao, are constantly eating when I explain some of the rules and customs, I knew he was meant towards the Bima, but in order not to make her too nervous, can only be directed at me. In terms of these rules on the Bima and Doje actually get along already infiltrated her life, familiar but not erased, but she was listening attentively to the questions raised from time to time, fearing that any lose a part of.
Later that evening listening to Dorji said that the performance of Bima was very decent and generous, very understand the rules, so that the family accepted she should not be any problem, I am deeply relieved after listening to, in fact, a good temperament to Bima and the Dairenchushi behavior simply has no way to picky, if just from the people to choose a different point of view fundamentally unfair, but fortunately it is still not Moso is such a dogmatic people.
From the Doje and Bima in this matter I have seen the Moso inner self protection, foreign woman was going into homes is a Mosuo how difficult things. Bima at work is extremely good of a person, award-winning do not say there is absolutely worthy of her proud side, but no matter how much success on the outside, once returned to the lake that she is an ordinary low-key good and decent women have to withstand the pressure from all sides, doing up and down with the Mosuo women, regardless of the household chores.
Have to admit that Dorje, and Bima in and get along in the process affecting their bit by bit, I can say that the beauty of the lake front is giving me a strong shock, while the later is the people giving me the beauty of the great spiritual touched.
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Author: bmlc721
