Hit the "New Women" (b)
Hit the "New Women" (c)
Hit the "New Women" (3 continued)
This section is about me and Kerry arrived in full Arabian Nights story, the conversation is about love, sex, marriage, freeman, male power and the limited nature of the feminist discussion. Can also be seen as me and Kerry on the confession of our fortunes, therefore, is not completely faithful to the evening's talk, reflect, tentatively to "seven days to talk about" a kind of style to be, and that all the contents of warning Ka know, it should be as the two of us shared the view expression.
----- 10-step the night, I dare to boiling suddenly quiet down in September of Lhasa is the kind of night rain, "moisten things silently" in light rain. Hotel where guests sleep long ago, our room bedside lamp switch failure, light is always on fixed in the most dark of that file. But just cheers and laughter, understanding, and seems to have become a popular story, single relative, even speechless, I found that I and Kerry almost two strangers.
Kerry go to the toilet for the pajamas, because Bengdi too much time out of the sweat, so the water permeability of the hair, damp hair Pisan in the thin shoulders, his face a bit because of the Tuijinqianhua pale. That bright, healthy, independent of the Kerry also showed a bit like the situation of small children to. Kerry lit a cigarette, a smoke ring skilled vomit.
Kerry's arm around my waist from behind, from her hands off a cigarette.
"You smoke too much," I said with both Kerry protected, an attempt to stop me deep kisses.
"Good girls go to Heaven, Bad Girls take the Quartet. Do not you think I'm a Bad Girl it?"
"Why is it so think?" I asked "If I'm smoking, such as we now this."
"Sorry," I let go, to help Kerry opened the bed, so that Kerry got into his blanket. And also the bed of his own, from the inside out has been to bring their own bag of Nestle instant coffee, for himself and Kerry to flush a cup of coffee.
Fragrant coffee ease an awkward state, Kerry said: "blame me, I was not ready."
"Kerry, do you Do not think so, you know? I would never do anything that you do not want me to do, and even let you worry about it all my sins. Believe me, okay?" I say " In my opinion, we can in this wonderful place to meet, met, meet the fate of how wonderful the arrangements, the two people still be able to enjoy each other, trust each other. so you were actually willing to work with me a room, how wonderful The fate and how unqualified trust. You believe me, I cherish the good fortune to know a wonderful and cherished friend of the trust. We do not care what happens, can only be our common desire, okay? "
Baker said: "I have never yet been with the boys just know the experience of the same room, do you?"
I replied: "I have, and I very much cherish this experience and opportunity, because I believe that violations between men and women is a God-given human beings the only truly valuable pleasure, the other's happiness are acquired Acquisition the product, such as career success, such as harvesting money, for example, in the game to achieve victory. " "These happy either built on the basis of the failure of others, or is built with the environment, material and spiritual aspects of the exchange."
"The so-called pleasure motivation: nothing more than a number of incentives so: a success or destruction of evidence through its own energy. 2 by comparing and conquest proved itself better than others. 3 of the psychological adjustment through self-proved its unique and the only . "
"Achievements of these happy, or need to make up a class, so some people must stand on the heads of others; or we need to be naturally calls for far more than what their own needs to satisfy their own desires; either self-deception and the Zidu type psychologically. These are, and I understand the freedom and equal rights of human nature, as well as the requirements of the ideal country far away. "
"And sexual and reproductive (sexual Garden of Eden), God for the suffering humanity, the arrangements and way forward, it needs only on two appreciate each other and having the same between the will, and her pleasure, instead letting each a lover of people have become prisoners inside crook of the arm. "
"In my world, sex is the same as music, painting, equivalent to mankind from the" greedy attempt to "all the efforts made by"
Baker said: "You are a pan-loving activists"
I nodded.
Jia said, "I can not imagine the situation you have described, you said is the" Goddess "era of the ancient kingdom of Babylon do? In my opinion, if not love, I find it difficult to accept sex between two people of the relationship."
"But have you ever thought, maybe we from the very beginning of" love "is defined as wanted to do wrong?" I tell to: "People always existed in Ukraine from the child received a number of areas, with regard to good people and bad, the traditional and modern. the pursuit of and beliefs. but I fear it will be challenged in the middle of our civilization, how many things are standing on a human perspective to consider the issue? exactly how many people are really good standing position? of our nation Elite also has a number of penetrating vision of the history of it? "
"For example, love (the love of the sexes), and we give the definition and form of love: marriage, eternal, loyalty, uniqueness, etc. Which is a stand like the scrutiny it?"
"The concept of loyalty is just that mankind is entering the era of the private financial future, in order to clear descent and inheritance rights and to make the moral requirements, and the complete loss of women's status is based on the cost. Because in the feminist era, descent is very clear and absolutely non-controversial. so it is unnecessary to require constancy "
"And marriage and marriage based on the conclusion of the reproductive relationship, whether monogamy or polygamy, are nothing but the request from a male perspective set up a system of domination sexual and reproductive way. Also the entire community women's systematic oppression and exploitation. "
"These should be the Eden of love and marriage, the dream of it?"
Baker said: "You say truly shocking"
"Is not it?" I asked: "Do you look at the whole history of marriage, stout woman has always been right-sided demands, while the marriage is nothing more than men," regulating the family "ideal of the insinuations, the only sex, but is used to protect the women beginning to end the hegemony of possession. Even if the teach-in "Kejifuli" Master Chu, the family will not only have three wives, but also frequented brothels, Poem and Wine should be, and also that the much-told tale of "
Baker said: "That was before, ah, at least for modern men and women, and uniqueness is the mutual obligation of loyalty, ah!"
"The fact is sad here," I said, "It's like boiled po daughter for many years after her experience inside the mother only when he treated her the way. When the suffering has become a habit, people will only bring Anklets dance.
"However, the Western institution of marriage is so ah, and the traditional Christian teachings about love and marriage is almost the basic connotation?" Kerry rejects.
"Yes, it's true, this one is because inherited from history, tradition, on the other hand, society must be equitable burden-sharing" sex "in order to allow the vast majority of citizens have the means of implementation and potential. Therefore, marriage is not the best system, but it is the most appropriate system, this is a sociological category. "
Kerry was silent: "You said, but according to the system of distribution of consumer goods, and unchangeable, but was liberated serfs who do not know down the shackles of marriage, but the distribution of means and social arrangements. So where do people's way out ? "
"Freedman, freeman is our only way out."
"The so-called freedman is the one:" eclectic, offbeat. Words feelings, behavior has been good, "broad-minded scholar, who at the margins of society, on the sidelines and thinking, who refused to rule out the community Brand, the ability to build according to their own ideas of self-world, do not take the initiative to interfere in the process of the community. They are the real critics, but also to respect the limitations of the individual and individual choice "
"Has the ability to think independently and who have a tendency to become a freeman, even if, as Bill Clinton, Mitterrand such public figures, there is no fear of social pressure and loss of yearning for freedom, only the media and the public supervision so that they can just not quite free, "
"Here, we will not be difficult to read out the limited nature of the power of reason, and the hypocritical nature of human morality. Since, as even Bill Clinton, Mitterrand, so wise and distinguished public figures, we can not get rid of dependence and the pursuit of sex. (I can hardly imagine that he would "love" Lai-mei) then we must review, we were wrong, or our moral wrong! "
"Freedmen should dare to challenge the rules of the level of inertia, and dare not conceal his own opinions, and courageous to practice their own point of view."
Kerry asked me: "Your ideas and your romantic acts of your wife know?" "If your wife like you Do not you mind?"
I replied: "I do not know, I am not sure if I understand you said my wife had the kind of situation will affect the direction in which my wife and relationships. Because I am not sure if I thought there are so tough and tolerance, but I certainly would not choose to "insight," my wife's private life "
"Do you love your wife?" Kerry asked, "I do not think a simple word to describe with love, marriage, the husband-wife relationship, because it is" PASSION "has very few links, my wife and more like life ally, I have become accustomed to the presence of her willingness to take life for her pain and burden of life's burden, as treatment of my brothers and sisters, husband and wife feeling more like a kind of affection. I care about her, but it can not afford to maintain his wife's "passion"
"I have witnessed many a marriage, because" passion "of the missing bits will collapse into the middle of another marriage, again collapsed. I think it is a problem with the marriage or in our marriage, the positioning of a problem? My conclusion is that the tomb of love, marriage, neither the authorities nor the siege. Marriage should be a contract of life, his two allies understanding the aspirations and demands because he had love and contracting, as understanding and solid, because the trials and tribulations of catching Er Shi marriage will benefit both. "
"Instead, love in itself should be more simple, she does not have the burden of stout, eternal, Haikudanlan only the heavy and authoritarian word. She should not be the burden of these and warmth, kindness, compassion, the same deed, put themselves in such a beautiful feeling irrelevant extension. "
"Leads to an excessive burden Love culprit, I think apart from the desire to free humanity from its own, there is the reality of gender regime is too cruel to women, we must use this concept to protect women in marriage within the system's security. "
"Apotheosis of love motive, if not ignorance, it is certainly something to cover up in the middle of the shy nature of this and the person's anus complexes may be assimilated. Man-made things in the middle of intoxication, Earned, secretion and uncontrolled shock: the people actually can not control his own desires and impulses, who betrayed the rational and divine! who loved beat!
"This time, beautification and deified love, for someone trying to get rid of its own tail the only way to escape a real way. Since we can not get rid of her, then deify or demonize her. This phenomenon, in a very primitive religion common, can not be overcome is our God, such as the Tibetan Bon Religion, like the middle of the worship of the beast "
"People should go back to the era of the Garden of Eden back to the era of humanity back to the era of Freedmen."
"The Freedmen's love, she must not be narrow-minded, the world's beautiful, kind-hearted, congenial of the opposite sex so much, why only him and not you love me then? In the form of the United States is so amazing So why is because we have abandoned the forest trees to explore the case? "
"Freedmen's love that she is certainly no reward for them, because the reward for those who love nothing."
"Freedmen's love will not pursue forever, because of their loyalty and infatuation, and can not be so ask others to also bound the elements, in addition to constant change is nothing other than the eternal."
"But if you describe the look, the world is not will be even more frightening? Marriage system was destroyed, the world's numerous illegitimate children born each day, every day, countless women have been abandoned if the disadvantages of clogs, while the rich people can be justifiably from a woman's body to climb up toward the other woman's body? "Kerry some angry.
"You say the problem is actually boils down to one question: is the production of gender in social status of the middle, that is what the gender is to rely on access to means of subsistence from a social center, as well as the means of achieving their material problems."
"Why in the era of maternal well-being of human beings who have the most love the times? Because women occupy in the production of an important role in the middle, while the men Zeyi chivalrous and health to access to meat and the protection of the same family, and win favor with women. When women production of intermediate social status was denied, the women, unfortunately, just as a provider of sexual and reproductive persons. "
"That is from this era, the first human to pricing, sexual nature of things began to develop into the value of being retail (prostitutes) or wholesale (marriage). Men with payment method or a way to support the exchange of sex, Women also rely mainly on the provision of sexual and reproductive services in exchange for the rights of dependents or to pay. so it is only the beginning from this day and age, sex began to be detained only as a single (husband), or group of persons (prostitution persons) exclusive domain.
"Sex is no longer a natural access to the joy of the process, but with the nature of the exchange is up for grabs."
"The betrayal and the nature of the exports was declared illegal."
"This situation is not as modern women's broad participation in social life changed, one is the nature of commodity and value had already been established in the community; the other is real-life situations, and can not guarantee that everyone has access to adequate means of subsistence. women into society, in economic access to voice, if not liberating the characteristics as a commodity is simply the same, gives women the right to buy sex only. "
Modern institution of marriage, in order to protect the process of transactions, instead of giving love, "the only, stout, eternal" This connotation. This is not so much in love as it is of a contractual nature of the transaction, a fair, rational, and has a binding contract. "
"So, whether it is male-feminist society or community, leaving the middle of the individual in the community the ability to obtain the means of subsistence, to talk about sexual liberation, sexual freedom must be very funny, no matter how optimistic we are, we all understand that to leave the existing family as well as the institution of marriage, how many people the lack of life skills will be placed, what kind of situation. "
"Well, the absolute core of the meaning of women's rights should not be merely include: marriage, autonomy, love, power, and the right to freedom of smoking. Even equal access to employment, learning, and the right to vote nor the right to be. Because stage of social development in a particular social class or gender would put an insignificant position, the right to equality means that the dominant groups in a reasonable abuse the rights of another group, the core of the feminist movement should be a clear gender position in society, and equal rights to protection, rather than equitable access rights. good society to protect the weak!
"Today's marriage, modern love, but it is our society's basic realities of compromise, this system is far from perfect, but it is the most appropriate. He is a kind of system to protect the weak."
I Baker said: "But they should have a freedman of his own choice and the ability to have his choice. Sex means to me is this, I mean, subject to nature, the libido of the call, the a means of mutual pleasure. "
"In my world, sex does not require subject to available information regarding the love, marriage system of imprisonment, he only needs two to enjoy each other's eyes and all other popular"
I do not know if this is not love, but I believe that this sense than the popular love was more pure.
Jia Zheng Zheng: "I really never thought about love, trust and ethics also need to say, you make my mind a very chaotic, and I do not doubt some truth in what you say, but I do not believe that the world is really like what you said It looks like "In fact, I am basically an agnostic, I'm not sure my own opinion is correct. "I Baker said:" But I have three non-Marxist principles,
"First of all it is not surprised: The world is wonderful, my vision is narrow, so I mind and must not narrow, the possibility of thousands of the world, there must be a generous heart and understanding."
"There is no fear: I am just in awe at the wonders of the world, so I understand their Miaoxiao. This body running rivers and lakes, is nothing more than a mortal Chou Pinang will eventually speed, so bravely went to the health they want ?. "
"There is also no regrets: life if it is absolutely correct according to a program to run, that's really tasteless. Practice, an error is inevitable, but the beginning of a new life tomorrow, not that it?"
Ye Jing great, pointer on the phone three in the morning, the glass has long been met with at the end of the second cup of coffee. Yunzhao faint air of magic emanation butter flavor.
Kerry asked me: do you sleep in it?
I said: "Sleep tight, tomorrow it should hurry to get somewhere?"
Out the window, XiXi cracking splitting the rain gradually smaller, across the bed snoring Ka subtle middle of my shallow sleep the first night in my plateau in!
Dawn of the.
Kerry asked me to sleep for you?
I asked her, do you think?
Kerry smiled, a very feminine look, I gently hug the Ka's waist, said: "But I am sorry, I myself why such a gentleman!"
Used the breakfast, Kerry began his day to visit the strategy is.
In the west of the station, breaking up soon, feel always sorry and sad, and I gently kissed Kerry's forehead, "all the best"
Ka force of holding me, with my cheek close to the face,
I breathe better smell the aroma of Kerry: "It's reluctant to let you go, Kerry"
I patted Kerry on the back, "Well, I do not send you on the train," said Kerry and helped organize her luggage, turning resolutely's always way around, I decided not to go back, because I knew that it would create extra sentimental .
Early morning sun, a thorough and Qinglie plateau, the air was filled with the breath seems to be grassland, my greedy breathe in an attempt to dilute the emotional faint at heart.
Suddenly, a three crunch soon as brake from my behind in front of me, Kerry ran down from the car on, suddenly grabbed me gently in my ear to say:
"I do"
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Untitled:
September 1st plateau line, Yuk Ngan, Becky vivid and clear snow-capped mountains.
Triple meeting scheduled for the suspect days night, Clouds in autumn now.
Luohe Changhuai Kodate Fu, Xiling still recall the long-Ji Yin.
No wonder, then did not pass-Jun-foot paper, at least Acacia up to the situation!
(TSAO Chi case of Roselle for Fu, Thanks for the Memories Su Xiaoxiao Li's Zengshi into the poet and the poet to spend Spring Night Dream. Who are these historical allusions, I am afraid that some friends of mine not know much about ancient Chinese, so show that Mo Fong laugh.)
