A few days later I also like the other backpackers I went to the various villages along the lake, the beauty of the lake gained a deeper understanding, but the overall feeling of missing something. The hotel covers an area of great live every day from all quarters the size of the vehicles parked in the courtyard, talking of various regional dialects of tourists flock. Each entered the ancestral home would like to know when the fireplace Moso the most sacred, which are either full of people (tour groups), or a people are not, go the whole host family greeted guests,. Finally back to an old lady sitting there Huotang Bian, and excitedly ask, my mother is kind Daoshi passion, pity that one had not understood a long time.
Seeing that left close to the date, I am more and more depressed, if the first trip to the lake to bring to my disappointment, then this time will be left is deeply regret. Many have heard is true or false withhold comment, but never actually saw little. Mosuo people as the cue to bury a lot of things in this nation at home and the house is not exposed, in front of outsiders put up a protective wall, they will be very kind to welcome you very warmly entertain you, but you can only ever be to see them on the surface but can not enter their hearts.
Miss lamb that night, it makes me really appreciate a true field of shy Moso culture, one so bold and the atmosphere inside the nation with such a delicate but hold something in them. To tell the truth, I have become increasingly suspect that many people said to go marriage, hook palms, Assia marriage customs and so on and so on, so openly and publicly in the form of a shy Moso culture seems to run counter to.
I was pacing with a question to the pier, the crowd is very lively as ever. Find a play that night with a few Mosuo small group, after listening to my puzzled look Doje bar they laughed and said he was in this region, "Doctor", telling the truth. What was I awoke, I think of "no father and husband of the country? "And he decided to go will be.
Along the direction indicated very well find him, had he not lived in the village fell into the water, but living in the vicinity of the protection of villages, and then opened a small shop. Asked why he did not live in the village of Agu, said the death of the original in this, he begins with home and moved out to live here keep shop. I know Mosuo homes belong to the same few people are living separately, and then asked whether this meant that the separation, he said that there is no separation of the Moso is said, but it can be divided into living, but still with a house, No matter how many live in separate, alluding to his home in the event of a major matter to resolve the issue as a unit; even if he was here, after the reconstruction of housing, and even have their own ancestral home and the fireplace, as long as the fire ceremony at the King only invited the family's relatives to come to together, they will never be separated. He said that in this region of course, there are trouble for a variety of separation problems, it is a very special case, Mosuo attaches great importance to honor and solidarity, belonging to the same ancestral mother of the person who, under the separation would have been ridiculed by the others.
I am unconventional reference to large numbers of people interested in walking marriage, he said, "walking marriage" should be actually in the Moso language translated as "walk", that is walked up and down in the evening to the bride's home leave in the morning the meaning of very image; because it is marriage, so called "walking marriage", precisely should be called "contacts." The Assia was set between them as lovers even more is not correct, "Asha" is the Moso inquire about a code word with each other among men, for men's patents, a woman can not say that no one can say in public, otherwise they will shy being joke. The term has been some movement of tourists listening to hype this is absolutely incorrect, and often have guests ask me out on how Assia how I will be very patiently explained to not be angry; However, if the ancestral house at home there are other the presence of relatives, that would make all awkward and shy, the result is beyond belief, all run disappeared.
Doje, then sometimes humorous, sometimes funny, more often he is in a calm tone of voice in the elaborate homes of the nation and experienced things that when people unconsciously have begun to have a deeper understanding of this nation. Only spoke of his grandmother Mary cells were never (that is Lobsang Masuyo Living Buddha's mother, former wife of Yongning toast) voted Lake committed suicide during the Cultural Revolution, as well as the humiliation suffered by the whole family, he had a few mouthfuls of smoke Mengchou sadness has no longer go on.
In order to ease the atmosphere, I would refer to spend building said, he said, "Flower House" in language and in real life does not exist, it was said in the 13-year-old girl into the Mosuo Lai-Lei Ting, after this we will have to spend Floor argument is wrong. Woman can only say that grow to 18 or nine years old when the can have their own rooms. He then asked me after the girl was said to Lai-Lei Ting can be spent in their own building to take marriage, for an immature children, how could there be such a behavior? Lai-Lei Ting just say that both boys and girls can post them as adults, which means grown up, it should be engaged in whatever work at home, in the family meeting, have the right to speak only.
Turning to "hook the palm" was, he said, "hook the palm" purely as a joke dancing is a joke and games, lip, who take it seriously? And can not openly say that would be very shy. If the "hook palm of the hand" as a prerequisite for interaction between men and women Moso it is wrong. Moso in the relations between the sexes in a very strict, not Gougou palms can begin interaction. First of all first inquiries and to determine whether the availability of blood ties between the two, to be determined before they can carry out exchanges. In their homes during the day to help the evening go to the woman's home, and have to wait until the woman's sleep before the whole family to meet, do not wake up for the elderly. The morning to get out of bed before the departure in the elderly. After the emotional stability to carry tobacco and alcohol Ribes audience with the elderly woman, that is, the Han meet the parents. Or not to take anything else, the elderly will not mind; and even grandmothers can do not meet one woman, anyway, so I had a child naturally after the meeting. Moso is a great respect for the feelings of first national freedom of marriage, the elderly will never interfere in that matter is purely a private matter the feelings, good or bad can be divided into two is the co-ownership will not interfere. Of course, really the two candidates did not thoroughly investigated with blood, the elderly will increase in the block until separately.
I asked whether there was such a thing when Dorji said it was because many of them are in the nearby villages, their relatives, some are separated by several generations of the relationship, while the younger generation does not know they still have contacts. But old people must know, will stop. This is not, finally breaking up on the line.
I asked if there will be tourists and locals have one-night stands, he said that what people have big trees, especially now that tourism development in tourist influx, many people on the road had been blown Hunhun dull, take a Searching for the mentality of a closer Mosuo, of course, there are local people to cope with their psychological, but very few. In fact, the practice of such a person is very stupid to the last visitors can Jiaodimayou bugger, and you get in return? Did not dare to family partners to know Needless to say, if they are found spread out not only "reputation" abroad, and the four townships Bali which men and women dare to come and you go marriage? Mosuo heavy personal reputation, to do so will only bring themselves and their families a great shame.
My mind suddenly flashed to his girlfriend Bin Mala measures, and asked that he promptly said that she has returned to live in cities, the New Year will come back. He was very solemnly that he would bring Bin Mala measures in the new year to the only family members to participate in the reunion dinner party. I understand what he meant, he wanted his girlfriend introduced to his family, which means that the family once accepted, Bin Mala measures will be part of this family. However, Han Bin Mala measures is also a city of people, and even into the future also will be a married into the way into the home and houses, it is a violation of the Mosuo rules, and they accept this? I doubt that telling Dorje, he looked dignified manner that it is hard to accept the key is the attitude of the elderly. Then he looks to easy to say that slow Come on, now brothers and sisters who have accepted her, and she is very nice, should be no problem. Then added: Fortunately, not the Yi people (Moso and Yi have generations rancor).
Doje chat in and the day that I have benefited greatly, he did talk about a lot of true words, no concealment and deception, but also without being sensational. And more interesting is that in the course of conversation and a tour guide came and asked him some questions relating to folklore, he was patiently answered their questions. During this period also received a weekly Mountain (ie, "no father and husband's country?" The author) a phone call from him a few days a video translation of boxes of the Moso. He did every word a gem, is a very talented folk at home Moso.
Finally, he told me that the New Year, Come, New Year's is very interesting Moso, you will feel more. That time, Bin Mala measures are, you will become very good friends.
Walking on the way back I suddenly very much looking forward to the arrival of the New Year, decided to revisit that time, once Lugu Lake. I Lugu Lake seems to be increasingly interested in, it is like a treasure filled with thick, but there are numerous doors of God Road, holes, cited the way you constantly tried to open it pushed it, and eventually to dig inside the rare earth gem. ......( Continued)
Author: bmlc721
